Bonnie Tharp Books
How to love someone who writes?
They are temporarily living in a fiction world and can’t come out until it’s all down on paper. Sometimes this takes hours, days, or weeks. And the muse may strike in the middle of the night or after a dream. They will come back to you, eventually. Promise!
Crying is sometimes a good thing for a writer. “If there are no tears in the writer, then there are no tears in the reader.” ~ Robert Frost
Hand them a tissue and leave them alone with their tears. BUT if they receive yet another rejection letter from an agent or publisher, hold them close, do not speak, feed them chocolate and wait. This will pass.
IF the writer is willing to allow you to read their material – do not criticize. Be positive. Tell them what you liked. IF they ask you what you didn’t like it’s okay to say, just don’t be snarky. You’re talking about words written in blood, so try not to hurt the bleeder.
Even though you may not like the genre of books they write, they are your love, so love them for their efforts. Love them for their dedication to their craft. Always be there for them, to offer love, laughter, congratulations, condolences or a sandwich if they’ve forgotten to eat.
Giving them time to write is the greatest gift of all.
Don’t complain when they buy new books. Reading is critical research and it’s tax deductible.
Clean up after yourself if they’re busy with their writing – you’re a grown up and right now they are in another world.
You have a rare opportunity to live and love a creative individual who has chosen you to share with. No one is quite like that person and they tell the BEST stories!